It's Never Too Late to Become What You Were Meant To Be
by Larry Steward, Work In Retirement Coach
It's taken me a long time to uncover and appreciate what I was truly meant to be. During all my working life, I have reinvented myself so many times I have become a transition expert! But with all the changes I've made along the way, I never felt I was fulfilling my true purpose.
I hope I can inspire those of you who may be on the fence in terms of making a big change, that if I can do this, you too can improve your life by showing up in this group, sharing your story and by being open to making some changes.
I am now 75 and looking forward to this change as the most exciting and rewarding period of my life. It takes some effort and some time but it's worth everything you need to do to start living your life the way you want it to be. Just by being in this group you have a head start, so stick with it.
It was four years ago when it all came together for me. The experience was like being in a dark room and suddenly the lights turned on. I was saying to my wife that my body could not take much more of the home improvement work I was doing and she said - you should consider going back into coaching. Just like that, I knew that was the answer and made a commitment to start the process.
What made this change different than all others before was that it had to include my wife. An important part of our plan was to relocate. For the first time since Susannah and I married over 30 years ago, we decided to finally work together as a team. We succeeded in finding work for both of us on a horse farm and that put our relocation into motion. We left the expense and cold winters of living in the New York area behind as we ended up in Aiken, South Carolina. We were both of retirement age then and had agreed we would continue working but only doing things we enjoyed.
Any transition like that may require paying your dues with other work until you find just what you want, however, as long as you have a purpose and are moving towards it, your life along the way will be changing for the better.
So how do you find your purpose and passion?
You may now be unhappy and tired. You keep thinking to yourself: I need to find something different. But then your brain skitters to a halt because you have no idea where to begin. It feels so overwhelming.
So, you stop thinking about it. And you are back to where you started—unhappy, tired, and totally stuck.
Any of this sound familiar?
It took me a long time to find my ultimate passion. I talked about the need to find my passion all the time. But I couldn’t get my mind around it. It was so big and hard to figure out.
So, I would get overwhelmed, do nothing, and months would pass. And that’s the unexpected problem with the whole concept: For most of us, the idea of “finding our passion” is the same as finding the holy grail—something so insanely big that it only happens to the special few who are supremely talented.
However, before you give up hope, think about it this way. If you break down the components of passion into a formula, it is really just interest + engagement = passion. No really, think about this: When you’re really passionate about something, you’re both interested in it (you think about it, maybe read about it), and engaged in it. You actively participate in it.
The same is true for me in terms of becoming a "Work in Retirement" coach. Not only do I spend a ton of time thinking about both working in retirement and coaching, I read up on everything related to it, I speak on the topic, I write whenever possible (hello, this article!), and I am actively coaching people.
So now it’s your turn: What are you both interested and engaged in right now? What are you not only thinking about, but you are also doing?
Start there. Share your thinking with the group and let us help you along.
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