Losing my identity
I'm on the cusp of retirement at 58. Everyone tells me I'm so lucky because we can afford to retire early. My husband retired at 57. However, I'm scared.
I'm leaving the best job I've ever had, the highest salary, a fantastic boss, and a great deal of accomplishment. I know I'll miss my work "family" and I'm afraid I'll feel less than valuable to the world.
You left no name, no email address, so you may never see this... but I am VERY curious WHY you are retiring?
If you aren't ready, why not continue working a bit longer? Is your husband pushing you to retire? Is he happy in retirement?
Retirees told me (for years), "You'll know when you are ready" and I worked 5 years past eligibility... and suddenly, no doubt, I WAS READY!
This doesn't mean that retirement isn't right for you, it also doesn't mean that you aren't ready.
What makes you anxious about retirement?
Can you possibly work there part-time?
What might help you to feel fulfilled in retirement (part time work, volunteer, hobbies)?
Don't simply retire. Forget the finances.
Consider what you will do, day after day, for the 8 hours you worked each day.