Only God can judge me

by Brother Boniface
(Muensterschwarzach Abbey)

It is such a human trait to talk about others, to judge them and to know how people could do it all so much better. I had to learn a great many things in this regard in the course of my life. Sometimes it was hard to learn and needed several lessons.

As human beings we see just so much, mostly what can be seen on the outside and what can you really see from the outside of a person? Not much. And it can be confusing too.

When I do something I have my reasons for it. It is hard for another to follow my reasoning because we rarely explain it or if so not very well.

I know I have been judged on occasion by others to be aloof, cool, distant and what have you. Yes, I can be all those. When I made the Myers-Briggs test I learned that I am an ISTJ. Meaning introvert, sensate, thinking and judging.

But then the fact does not easily come to light that I can feel very deep in my heart an empathy that goes to the core. Hard then to judge me on the outside only. And I assume when I do not know enough about another person I might tend to misjudge.

So I have learned at long last not to judge. It is important to take the other as he or she is. To accept another persons behavior as it is and not to wish to remake the person in my fashion.

Only God can look into my heart. He knows me full well, my intentions and my hurts and pains as well as my good points. So in the end it means to me that I live my life as best I can and leave the judging up to the Lord for the last day when I will be able to see Him face to face. On the other hand I am happy that other persons will have the same chance that I do.

Wendy: Brother Bon, I am an ISTJ too! I want to retake the test, it was twenty-five years ago when I first took it.. and I wonder if I am different now? If I remember correctly, only 25% of women are ISTJ's and that's me! So surprised to see you know Myer-Briggs too!

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Oct 06, 2011
A test is only a test
by: Bro. Boniface

Hello, Joseph,

YES, I do agree with you completely.
A Myers-Briggs test is not the whole answer to the make up of a person. I have participated in various other tests like the Enneagram and have formed my own views. One can get all wrapped up in making one such test and forget that life is much more.

Thanks for your comment. It is appreciated.

Oct 03, 2011
What I feel like!
by: Joseph Kainikkara

All these so called tests could be precise and true to a certain extent. But don't believe and follow them blindly. They are mostly generalizations based on statistical observations!

What I do is try to adhere to universal values like honesty, sincerity, truthfulness etc. And then, don't do anything that your conscience objects to (of course you should have a conscience as a precondition.

Once you follow this simple rule you don't have to be worried about others judging you, provided you are on the right side of the law of the land!

Oct 02, 2011
Some Wisdom to Share
by: Kae

I've forgotten what my Myers-Briggs results were it's been so long ago. I know I'm changing as I get older and becoming more in touch with a Higher Power. I still find myself judging but at least now I catch myself in the act and steer in another direction.

Here is something I'd love to share. It has made a deep impression on my heart.

One evening an old Cherokee native told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all.

"One is Evil - It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

"The other is Good - It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith."

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: "Which wolf wins?"

The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed."

Regards, Kae (kfijal at

Wendy: Love it! So true...

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