Retirees: Write YOUR New Story
Tell YOURSELF Your Best Story!
As I approved 15ish new members into the private community today, I briefly read about each person. I always do, so that hopefully I can maintain the integrity of this community... and don't let any scammers in.
Several "stories" caught my attention llike many others probably should have over the years. I am in a NEW place myself, mentally... perhaps thats why I saw this.
A few new members wrote about life, briefly, but telling all... all the bad things that have happened to you. I get it... and so thrilled you are open enough to share with the community. I pray others will have kind words for you.
TODAY IS THE DAY you can begin to start to REWRITE YOUR STORY.
Story #1, Sherrie:
My husband had a heart attack at 54 , he was without oxygen for too long and has memory problems ,his Dr said it may or may not come back ,so we are looking into disability and/or retirement ,we are having a hard time making this decision do we get both or one or the other??? We are so bummed he thought he was going to retire in a couple years ,he has 27 years with his company !
Wendy's Two Cents:
Sherrie, Please change your internal story asap. Don't let your husband go into retirement feeling as though he "can't" anymore... if he chooses to retire, he needs a positive mindset! You do too. It's definitely not easy... So darn important, especially if you remain working.
If *I* were to rewrite your story, the story you live through and tell yourself every day... I might try:
"My husband had a heart attack and now has memory problems... BUT he survived it (many others don't)! Woo Hoo! He is getting healthier day by day, his memory returns more and more daily too. The BEST part is: He will be with me for years to come, so that we can make many more memories together.
He may retire, a couple years earlier than we planned, but ALL GOOD... life always throws curve balls at you and we simply catch them and run with them. We are both excited at the possibility of retirement, and all that it offers us. LIFE IS GOOD."
Story #2, Jane:
I retired as a special education teacher less than one year ago. In addition my ex left me 6 months prior to retirement forcing me to sell our retirement home. I am now trying to figure out what to do with myself. I would say I am somewhat depressed and very disappointed!
Wendy's Two Cents:
Jane, as a former Special Ed Teacher, why don't you start a blog... helping parents of special ed kids? There are so many ways you could go with this, you have the knowledge (and also lots of hobbies you might blog about), why not share it with the world, for the greater good?
If you find you really enjoy blogging, you might decide to do this as an online business... earn an income while doing good out there. It will make YOU feel loads better, you can change the world online, seriously... those within your reach will be changed.
Maybe your story, repeated over and over to yourself, like a mantra, is this:
"TODAY, I am changing my life. I will not live out my retirement in depression. What happened, happened but I look towards my future, not my past...
I am starting to change those who I can influence with my positive role model behaviors. i will reach out online to help those less fortunate than me. I understand the stress and anxiety parents of special ed kids live under and I can help them, from afar, to greatly impact their world, and thus doing work for the greater good."