Military Retirement Anxiety

Military Retirement anxiety, like law enforcement retirement anxiety, is different than civilian retirements.


Military and law enforcement careers are forced into this cohesive bonding between employees, like nowhere else. Military live in far off places, worldwide, away from their partner and children at home. They face heart-breaking good-byes and long separations. They rely on their military family like most people don’t rely on co-workers. 

Military personnel live in a very regimented military lifestyle for years. They are subject to the brutalities of life that many of us never experience. They are brave, courageous, and often face danger daily. They rely on each other physically but also for emotional support.

That’s not bad, it’s great… they need to have each other back in so many stressful situations.

Then comes retirement… and those co-workers are gone. The military is no longer your life. You are free to do whatever you want to do.

BOOM. Gone.

Your normally too-busy days are now filled with nothingness. Nobody is asking you for advice, nobody is even around. 

BOOM. Gone.

You are back with family, but they don’t really understand what you’ve been through, not like someone who has been there with you. You feel lost without your disciplined lifestyle, despite craving this freedom for years.

You Are Not Alone!

Please Share Your Own Story on Military Retirements

Your comments will help others to think about military retirement, before leaping into the "depression at retirement" pit. Please share what happened to you so that others can plan ahead accordingly:

  • Did you fall into anxiety or depression when you retired?

  • How long did it last?

  • In your opinion, what helped you to break away from this anxious state?

  • How did you walk out that retirement door? Did you voluntarily retire, or did you leave because of a disability, employer forced you out, etc?

  • Tell your military story... why is it so difficult to leave it all behind?

Read about what other Visitors have to Say...

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